Resilience: An Emotional Intelligence Competency We Need Today

We are focusing more now on emotional intelligence (EQ), as it becomes increasingly evident that it can be the crucial factor in determining success and happiness in our careers and relationships. Once we have the fundamentals in place--education, expertise, 
and skills--how we handle ourselves and others is what makes the difference.

Resilience is an important EQ competency. It means being able to bounce back after setbacks, failures, disappointments and losses. It means not giving up, and continuing to face the future with optimism and courage despite events. Because life will have its ups and downs, one of the most important things we can do is learn how to bolster our resilience. We can do this by understanding the competencies that make people resilient and then working with a coach to improve our skills in these areas. 

Being resilient is going to be extremely important in the future as the pace of change continues to escalate.

People who are the most resilient have these competencies: 

1. They are reflective, able to look back on experiences and extract the kernels of wisdom from them. 
2. They don't back off from realisty, but face it squarely, labeling things for what they are--setbacks, losses, disappointments. 
3. They know their feelings, label them correctly, and express them fluently and routinely to others. 
4. They are able to separate timezones--past from present from future.
5. They commit to the agony of grieving for as long as it takes.
6. They find meaning and purpose in their struggles, knowing that they will benefit in the end by a greater understanding of the fundamentals of live.
7. They have a high EQ, including being able to think flexibly and creatively under Stress

. They expand rather than shut down when faced with a challenge.
8. They keep a reserve of energy built up through regular periods of rest and renewal.
9. They have a strong network of individuals they can depend upon, and who know and accept them as they are.

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Susan Dunn is an emotional intelligence coach. YOu can visit her on the web at www.susandunn.cc

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Daily Motivation

The Reason Why

When the reason why is powerful enough, you can find the strength necessary to get the job done. When the reason why is clear enough, you can develop the discipline required to reach the goal.

When the reason why is meaningful enough, you will gain access to the resources you need to make it happen. When the reason why is compelling enough, you will have the persistence needed to see it through.

Whatever you undertake, it is essential to understand and connect to the reason why you’re doing it. With a strong enough and meaningful enough reason why, you will find a way there.

Though the obstacles may seem overwhelming, a compelling reason why will motivate you to get past them. Though the challenges may be enormous, a clear reason why will bring you the encouragement necessary to work through them.

Before you begin, ask yourself why. When the going gets rough, remind yourself why.

Know, understand, and connect to a meaningful reason why. And you’ll find a way to get it done.

— Ralph Marston

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Daily Motivation

Opportunity to Care

Today is an opportunity to care. Today is an opportunity to care about what you do, about who you are becoming, about how you treat others, and about all of life.

Though it is easy to be apathetic, it is terribly difficult to live with apathy. Be thankful that you don’t have to, and renew your commitment to care.

Care, not to impress anyone with how enlightened or compassionate you are. Care, with thoughtfulness, with patience, with love, because it feels so right.

Express your gratitude not with empty flamboyance, but with purposeful living. Even when all the world seems careless, especially when the world seems careless, your opportunity to care is more valuable than ever.

Jump with passion into this day and give it some good, measured, meaningful caring. Add a little understanding, a decent amount of humility, and you have a formula for real enrichment.

Care, because it is what you do. Care, and be vibrantly alive.

— Ralph Marston

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A Day Of Substance

Make today a day of substance. Let go of your concerns about the superficial things that really don’t matter, and devote your energy to the things that do.

Life is a grand experience and there is so much more to it than just keeping up appearances. Even the small, unimpressive moments can be profoundly rich if you’ll just allow them to be.

Remind yourself how fortunate you are to be living this day. See how silly it is to worry and fret over the things you don’t have when you do have so much.

Grab hold of the opportunity that is now. You can make good things happen, and you already know how great that will make you feel.

Look around at the world and smile a great, big, satisfied and joyful smile. Realize, at a deeper level than ever before, how great and limitless your possibilities are.

Use this day for real, substantive progress, the kind you care about so much. Be amazed at the abundance, and be delighted at what you do with it.

— Ralph Marston

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Enjoy your life

Enjoy your life. On this day, in this place, whatever concerns, challenges, opportunities and situations you’re faced with, enjoy yourself.

Enjoy the little, seemingly insignificant things. Enjoy the big, life-altering things.

Enjoy the drama and the peace, the solitude and the fellowship, the activity and the relaxation. Enjoy the work and the play.

Enjoy being you. Enjoy not having to impress anyone, just being able to live your life in harmony with your values.

You work better, play better, sleep better, eat better and experience better relationships when you allow yourself to enjoy. You’re more interesting, more interested, more loving and giving and creative.

It’s really not that difficult to make the choice to enjoy your life. Enjoy your life in an authentic way, and make it a whole lot more enjoyable.

— Ralph Marston

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Turn things around

You don’t have to be mad that you’re not happy. You can be happy that you’re not mad.

You don’t have to make excuses to avoid taking action. You can step up, take action, and enjoy living with no excuses or regrets.
Life never has to get you down. You always have what it takes to turn things around.

From challenges you can make value. Out of the difficulties you can make progress.

You can choose to see the best possibilities. And the moment you see them, you can begin moving toward them.

There’s never any need to move in a negative direction. Because it’s always your option to turn things around.

— Ralph Marston

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Treasure Of This Day

This is a day to be treasured. Enjoy it.

Celebrate this life of yours, and the opportunity to live it. Allow yourself to feel the goodness that swirls through each moment.

Seize upon every chance to uplift those around you. Experience how great it feels to give value to whatever situation you’re in.

Watch and listen and learn from the fascinating stories being told through the words, actions and lives of those around you. Find new, rich and compelling ways to tell your own special story in all you do.

Marvel again at the beauty you’re able to witness. And take a little while to simply enjoy, with no agenda, with no particular expectations, and with a joyous newborn sense of wonder.

Walk gently and lovingly through the treasure that is this day. Let your thankful presence increase that treasure even more.

— Ralph Marston

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Give In

Give in to your best intentions. Give in to  your dreams

Give in to the opportunity of this moment. Give in to the positive possibilities, and let them pull you forward.

It is good that you’ve been where you have been, because it has brought you to where you are now. Allow the joy that is now possible, allow the fulfillment, allow the love and richness and life.

Enjoy moving past any excuses and limitations you may have imagined. Give in to your highest vision, and bring that vision to life today.

Spend some time reminding yourself how good life is at its heart. Let go of your hesitation, and experience the great life that you deserve and that you are able to create in this moment.

You know how great life can be. Give in to your own unique greatness, and share it joyfully with all the world.

— Ralph Marston